Positivity: Always Be Positive

Being Positive.

As much as we try to be positive all.the.time, negativity and doubtful thoughts always manage to creep in. Especially during times of physical, mental and emotional weakness. During these times, I try to take small positive thoughts, and repeat them over and over, or in my mind remind myself of all of the things I am thankful for. Putting yourself and your situation in Perspective is vital.

Below I just wanted to provide the simplest of thoughts and ideas you can incorporate into your thoughts and brainwaves when those negative thoughts do creep in!

  • Realize it’s possible, instead of telling yourself why you can’t.
  • Become aware of your self-talk.
  • Squash negative thoughts like a bug.
  • Replace them with positive thoughts.
  • Love what you have already.
  • Be grateful for your life, your gifts, and other people.
  • Every day. (before you get out of bed give thanks for all the good things in your life & before bed too)
  • Focus on what you have, not on what you haven’t.
  • Don’t compare yourself to others.
  • But be inspired by them.
  • Accept criticism with grace.
  • But ignore the naysayers.
  • See bad things as a blessing in disguise.
  • See failure as a stepping stone to success.
  • Surround yourself by those who are positive.
  • Complain less, smile more.
  • Image that you’re already positive.
  • Then become that person in your next act.

In our lives we are constantly bombarded with stress, negative people, situations, and bad environments. BUT it is what we take away from it, and HOW we choose to react to the situation that is before us. That is a choice, therefore CHOOSE to be positive. There is no other way.

Jot down some of these simple positive thoughts, the next time you need to take a step back, and breathe.

Positivity is contagious. Smile and laugh when it doubt :)

A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.’ ~Herm Albright

Inspiration: the key to life?

We all find Inspiration in many ways. Whether it is from others, nature, travel... it surrounds us every single moment of our waking hours. But how to stay inspired?- sometimes I find that hard! I am inspired for a moment, but prolonging that inspiration takes some practice.

Always keep your eyes open, at all times, stay present whenever possible, and allow yourself to breathe in that inspiration.

Inspiration isn’t just a one-time thing. You’ll need it on a regular basis.
When you practice the above — keeping your eyes open, staying present, and breathing in inspiration — you get better at it. It becomes a skill ( it is important to look at it as a skill, as it is something you have to practice) you can use at any time, and you’ll use it often.

Some tips for keeping the inspiration coming:

  • Work with inspired people – one of the best ways to stay inspired is to work with creative, energetic, positive people.
  • Read daily – varied things, from blogs to magazines to books of all kinds.
  • Get outside – nature is one of the biggest inspirations, and you’ll miss it if you’re inside all day. What is better then fresh air in the early morning, a brisk evening walk at sundown... pure bliss to me.
  • Talk with new people – they’ll always expose you to new and interesting things, if you’re open to it.
  • Break out of your routine (this is huge for me as I can be a natural creature of habit!) – see things from a different perspective. Take a new route home. Go to a new restaurant. Visit someplace new in your area.
  • Find time for silence – it’s more inspiring than you might think. Unfortunately, not enough of us do it, and it can feel lonely at times (this is especially difficult for us living in NYC)
  • Exercise – or at least get moving. It helps the blood to circulate, and gets ideas moving around. Some of my most inspired thoughts come when I am walking around the city.
  • Don’t just feel inspired. Take this inspiration and use it, be moved, and do something. Channel that inspiration into creating something amazing.
  • Put that something out into the world, and in turn, you will inspire others.

For my part I know nothing with any certainty, but the sight of the stars makes me dream.” ~Vincent van Gogh

The road of Life.

I haven't posted anything for a long time, because I was super busy making everything behind-the-scenes of Organice Your Life® work. I hired Lisa to work full-time on the site and magazine, and I am very happy so far!

In the meantime, I have done photoshoots, with lots of pictures coming out soon, I survived 2 earthquakes and 1 Hurricane in 2 weeks.(That is the earthquake in NYC and Hurricane Irene, and one earthquake in the Netherlands when I just returned there!). I also discovered I might be allergic to gluten, as I feel tired after eating bread.... I also turned 30 which really makes me feel mature, happy and full of energy for the rest of my life. My best friend got married. A lot of friends are having babies.. Lot's of things on my mind, lots of things to think about...My boyfriend and I have a long distance relationship, and I travel all over the world. My sister lives in another country as her boyfriend plays soccer there (or football as we say) A lot of things happening around me, all at once.

Even I, who set up Organice Your Life®, feel that I have to "organice" my life still. It is not perfect ever, the road of life is a continuous path of ups and downs, thoughts and experiences and never knowing which way it will go. Going with the flow, while making wise moves.There is no right, there is no wrong. Just love and respect your own feelings and others. I try to prepare for the near future, while trying to decide what the way is that makes me happy at the moment, as I never know what the future will bring.

But what if certain experiences, can make you feel totally out of control within yourself? Like you are losing control of the situation? While you always thought everything is in control? After experiencing the feeling of an near empty NYC in preparation for hurricane Irene, that looked more like Doomsday, and the earthquake that literally shook everything in my apartment, I thought: what if disaster really struck seriously? What is it I am doing in my life? What do I want to really do in my life? What is in the future for me? What should I do? Who should I spend time with? Kids or not? Marriage? NYC or the Netherlands? or maybe Scotland? Even Paris? I think you need moments to take your own time, to meditate, to feel, to get in contact with your true heart, feelings and thoughts. Process it all, find out why things are happening, and assess. You need time to just think and make a few decisions that maybe make YOUR LIFE  (in this case MY life) better and gives you the room to breath, and think happy thoughts and just love it all.

I decided I am going to visit my sister soon as I miss her. I decided I am eating less bread unless it is made of spelt as it probably will make me feel less tired. I decided to really take time to find out what I need in love, friends, family space, place to live and in my work. I need to really pick up my fitness again. But mostly: In a month it has been exactly 10 years ago that my father passed away. The person who supported me throughout the first part of my career and was besides that, an awesome dad. I never really got through it, I just went on with my life.I started to recently process the pain and loss for the first time. All these feelings together worn me out a bit emotionally and I just need time to think, relax and feel. Take a step back to jump forward. This all is just my road of Life, and I try to live and enjoy it fully!

Love, Lonneke

picture: "Gili Trawangan beach by sunset" by Alexia van der Meijden

Wheel of Energy

12,5 degrees Celcius, strong wind and rain, rain, rain. Those were the weather circumstances yesterday at Amsterdam Airport Schiphol, where the Wheel is spinning. Driving there, I was a bit intimidated by the weather, and the idea of running in a new way (normally I do not play hamster when I run). But as soon as we got there we got greeted with a big hello and an equally big smile from a happy runner that didn't seem to have a dry spot left on his body, and I knew I was about to have some fun. I warmed up on a bike, and hopped in the Wheel with him, where he explained to me he wanted to do a little marathon, but he promised his daughter he'd be back in time for dinner, so he was only doing a half marathon. My wussyness was growing by the minute, with my one hour run...

This friendly runner also explained to me, that especially since the founder stopped running daily marathons out of personal reasons, they're having a pretty tough time keeping the Wheel going. This news, in combination of course with me feeling like a wussy, and the fact that one of my brothers had the luminous idea of sponsoring me per kilometer, I decided to stay longer.

After one hour my friendly running friend had had enough, and I was there alone. No, not alone, I had my sweet wife with me, under her umbrella, in the cold and pouring rain. I was completely wet, getting tired and cold, and actually kind of having a great time. Kilometer after kilometer I was enjoying myself, talking to people that just wanted to say hello, or say good luck, ask what this is for, or tell me I should get inside, because the weather wasn't very nice. The cool thing was, that no matter what people came to ask or say, it was all friendly, interested and nice.

The last 20 minutes of my second hour I was looking at my watch every two minutes, which is never a good sign. I haven't run a distance that long in a while, and I wasn't prepared for it, so I was struggling at the end. After two hours and 23 kilometers, I stopped. I was cold, tired, my muscles in my legs and back were stiff, but I felt like I did what I could for now. I'm happy that now the people that sponsored me can at least really feel like it's been their money's worth!

I am writing this the morning after my run, and since I woke up this morning, I am trying to find one spot in my legs that's not sore. I am still looking. I would like to say a big thank you to my parents, my brothers and their partners, my friends Mark and Niels, Bas Smit, OYL's Lonneke and my wife for the support! More than 400 euro will go to the Wheel of Energy!

As soon as I can stand up without making old-man-noises, I'll let you know.


Marius was a contributor for Organice Your Life between the years 2011-2012

 This article was first published by Marius Hordijk on OrganiceYourLife.com on May 12th 2012. Updated in 2019.