Love Somebody

Love people & life, Not Stuff

We are ALL in love with stuff — with shopping, with acquiring, with owning, with collecting! I know it is easy to do this. But let’s lust after life instead?

How we live our lives these days

Our obsession with stuff has become unhealthy. When we have a void in our lives, we buy things (we have all done it!) When we have problems, we buy things. And these things are becoming more and more expensive, bigger, shinier … more wasteful ( and NOT Green!)

This obsession with stuff leads to owning a lot, having a lot of clutter … and yet this stuff doesn’t fill our lives with meaning.

We buy things when we’re depressed, we buy things for others to show how much we love them … and in this way, stuff has separated us from actually dealing with our emotions, blocked us from truly connecting with others.

Let’s replace that lust for stuff with a lust for life and here are some ideas and inspirations that help me, but is something I have to remind myself of often... especially when walking past my favorite store! We are all a work in progress, so we need to be gentle with ourselves, but we also have to make good choices, that will help us grow in every way.

Make good choices that will help us grow in every way

  • Rediscover a passion for life. Get outside and feel nature, appreciate the beauty of the world around you. Get active, do some gardening or yardwork, play a sport, go for a walk, take a hike, go for a swim, ride a bike. Feel the life coursing through you. Breathe it in.
  • Give experiences as gifts, not stuff. Instead of shopping for someone come birthdays or Christmas, think of an experience you can give them instead. A date with you, doing something fun, hanging out, cooking, playing, talking, exploring. A fun time at a park or beach. Something other than everyday. An experience is much more meaningful than an object.
  • Connect with others. In real life. If you haven’t hung out with a friend recently, give him a call and go hang out. Go on a date with your partner. Visit your mom or grandparents. And be present while you’re with them — really listen, really be there. Love people, not stuff!
  • Deal with your emotions. If you have a need to buy things, to shop when you are having emotional issues, be more aware of this. Then deal with the underlying emotions, rather than using shopping as a way to forget about them. If you’re depressed, or anxious, or lonely, deal with those. Find solutions, figure out what’s causing them. Good news: experiencing life, getting active, and connecting with others all help you deal with those emotional issues.
  • Disconnect your attachment to stuff.
  • Realize that life, not stuff, is what matters. Objects are just objects — if you lose them, if they get stolen or destroyed … it’s not a big deal. They’re just objects, NOT your life. Your life is the series of moments that is steaming through your consciousness right now, and how you use those moments and what you fill them with is what truly matters, not what you fill your home with. At the end of this short journey, you’ll look back and remember your experiences, the people you loved and who loved you back, the things you did and didn’t do. Not the stuff you had.

So let's all love life & NOT STUFF!

I hope this inspires you to re-think wants VS needs. We all *want* stuff, but do you need it? Internalize this, and hopefully you make the right choice for YOU.

Love xoxo

First published in 2011, Updated in 2019


New York City outdoor workout with friends!

It's Summer in NYC and this one is the mildest of the last few years... We are in mid July and the thermometers haven't reached 100 degrees yet. For me there isn't a better combination than meeting with friends and doing a New York City outdoor workout! Last week our best friends Ricardo Baldin and his girlfriend Jeannete Linderberg, joined my love Fabio Nunes and I for a nice week of training and eating good food. They both are based and working as models in L.A. so I get to see them only once in a while another reason to really enjoy our time together.

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Fabio and Ricardo at the Elevated Acre in the financial district NYC.

Ways to work out outdoors in New York City

There are a LOT of ways to do a New York City outdoor workout:  biking, playing ball, skating, running. And there are a lot of places to do it so too!

After a great smoothie in the morning, we all went for a cardio training that takes only 15 minutes of your time! The goal is to keep your heart rate a bit at a certain level that helps you sweat and burn fat. After all is a great way to raise your energy levels for the rest of the day.

We also had a little fun doing Yoga poses ( Asanas ) and helping each other to improve our technique. We went to the Elevated Acre in the Financial District to do this workout.

 

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Eating healthy after a workout

I am proud to say that our post New York City outdoor workout meal was amazing! : Chicken legs, sweet potatoes, spinach egg whites omelet with avocado topping and arugula salad. Every single ingredient was organic and chicken was free range grade 2. All made with love and care by Fabio's talented chef hands. He is a Model Chef after all, who has cooked many delicious dinners for foodlovers around New York City :)

 

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Riding a bike in New York City

The other day, we rode city bikes and took the East River cycling route with destination: Central Park. The ride was just so enjoyable, the temperature during the day was perfect and it really got into my senses the whole experience exercising, and enjoying the view, good weather and company. We even bumped into few Brasilian friends that were doing exactly same thing as we were: two girls on their skates while the third one was running alongside them. The bike ride was about 7 miles , Uptown to Central Park, and back home with a few stops to enjoy our favorites places in the city. Like the Italian meca Eataly on 5th av and 23rd st - were we went to recharge our fuel with great food.

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When at the park it was easy to have a good time!

 

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At Central park - inspired by kids playing around - soft strenght training.

 

Outdoor work outs with friends are fun

Gather a few friends, get inspired by the good weather and push each other to reach your goals! Share your knowledge and experiences - all that, and relieving stress at the same time! Above all Summertime is here to raise our spirits in a positive vibe !! I strongly advice to stay active,  moving your body every chance you get! That's the way I'm gonna spend my next days, what about you guys ?? ;))

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Follow me and Fabio on instagram for more workouts and healthy foods:

@CarolFontaneti & @1FabioNunes

Stay focused,

XoCarol ;)

 

 


Making of Model Chocolate part 2

Hello beautiful readers! I share the cacao love with Organice Your Life® contributor Abigail O'Neill, so what's better than getting together for some model chocolate making with friends? As Lonneke already shared her favorite recipe from Abigail's Model Chocolate book HERE, I'm gonna share mine with you all.

First of all, I wanted to congratulate Australian supermodel Abigail O'Neill with her wonderful work on the amazing book Model Chocolate ! Much more chocolate LOVE to you my dear, thank you very much for the effort of turning your passion into something everyone could benefit from!

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Getting ready to start our "Chocolovers" cooking in the Organice Your Life® kitchen. All ingredients and of course Model Chocolate cook book by Abigail.

I'm crazy for cookies... only the smell of cookies coming from the oven drives me crazy! So I chose the Chocky Bikkies with almond butter and honey. They are made with cacao nibs for a bit of crunchiness... I absolute love IT ! These are the healthiest I've ever made... Ingredients such as coconut, macadamia , vanilla and honey are the heroes of this awesome mixture above...

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And it all together turned into ...

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THIS! Beautiful leafs made with lots of LOVE

The other day at home, my boyfriend Fabio reproduced another great recipe to one of our good friends and everyone was absolute blown away by how easy and tasteful were the Protein Cocoballs!! We've tried out eating them either before and after getting our workout done. It felt good to my body both ways, increased my energy level and helped recovering muscles. They're good as sweet treats after lunch or dinner, as it's made with the best ingredients and superfoods on Earth, so you don't get to feel guilty about eating them. It's pure goodness ;)

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Delicious Protein Cocoballs ready!

So let's get inspired , get your friends and start cooking!! If your are interested in having access to all these amazing choco blast, please go to OYL shop and get yours! E-book and hardcopies are available HERE. Join us and share your love for raw chocolate too! Share your love for chocolate too!

Xo Carol ;)

pictures by Carol, Fabio & Dirk  Verest


Joey's Circle of Five!

[quote]Here I was, getting ready to go onstage... to supposedly convince and inspire thousands of people... to get unified and to fight the prejudice... you know, that I couldn't even inspire seven dancers. - Madonna TRUTH OR DARE, 1990[/quote]

Do you know that feeling when you want to change the world? When you want to inspire people? But you can’t even inspire yourself sometimes?

That’s how I felt a while ago. I was lost. I didn’t know what to do. How to begin. How to get the energy again.

Let me tell you about the months in my life in mid-2013 as a lot changed for me. I resigned my parttime job because I wanted to really focus on my company HAUS OF JOEY. I only want to work as a freelance illustrator. A lot of people around me told me also to quit my job. "Just do what you do best. You can do it! Just focus!" So I did. Without a real plan.

I forgot that I always had a job (since I was nineteen). I always had a boss. I always got my money at the end of the month. I had a rhythm every day: get up, go to work, own your money, go to home, spend some time with my husband, go to my friends, etc.

I loved it, but I was also used to it. It was regular. Normal. In control. And I love it to be in control. Cause I’m a control freak.

That all ended. Now I am my own boss.
Now I have make my own plans, my own choices, my own rules, etc.
Now I have to make my own money... Oi!

I started too positive. Too happy. Cause I had some money. No worries, right? I took some time to get in my new mood, my new rhythm. And it was hard. It felt like I was in rehab.

I’s always busy in my creative head, and I had to do a lot. But how to start? Where to begin?

And then I thought about one episode of Oprah. Rudine Howard suffered from lifelong anorexia, and Oprah followed her story from 1989 to her death in 1994. When Traci Gold appeared with Rudine (age 29 and 58 lbs.), Traci insisted Rudine could overcome anorexia by taking steps to “fill your mind.” Rudine heart-wrenchingly asked, “But how do you do it?” It changed Oprah’s way of thinking.

[quote]That is it. That is what everybody wants to know. How? This is the central question in life. - Oprah[/quote]

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not comparing myself with this sad story, or the woman who suffered from this disease. It’s all about her question. How? How do you do it? How do you get a succesful business? What do you have to do?

The Organice Your Life®'s the Circle of Five

I thought about Organice Your Life®'s the Circle of Five. These 5 steps can help you to organize and improve your home, your finances, your career, your health, your relationships, and your good charitable work for others.

Why not start with that? Just to get back on track. So I did.

1. Organice Your Home

I cleaned up my atelier, my work office. Started with my administration, organiced all my old illustrations (hundreds!!!), pictures (thousands!), etc. It took some time but boy, I’m so happy I did it! Luckely my place at home was already organiced!

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2. Organice Your AGENDA

I started reading “Start from Your Heart”, a book about how to start your company in your own steps, with your own feelings. It helped me to get back to basic. Why do I want to get a successful business? What do I want to earn? What are my goals? For now? And for the next couple of years?

I’ve written everything down, and now I have my own manuscript about how to start my own company. And I did it in the way I wanted to do it. It felt so good. Cleaned up my head again.

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3. Organice YOURSELF

I love to take care of my body and mind. But sometimes I need structure to get back the focus. I do not drink a lot, and don’t use any drugs. I’m trying to eat better (step by step, with the help of great Organice Your Life recipes), and I’m doing my exercises again. All at home. Low budget.

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My schedule? In the morning I start with the sun salutation and after that I do my push-ups, or use some dumbles. I run 3 times a week. It gives me such a nice feeling, and my body’s getting back in shape again!

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4. Organice Your RELATIONSHIPS

Husband - I married the best man in the whole world! He supports me in everything, and he believes in me. Every Wednesday evening is our night, and we do something together: we’re going to the movies, having dinner outside, take a walk. Such good quality time.

Family - I love my brothers and sister. We talk almost every day (thank God for group whatsapp), and once a while we go out together. Crazy nights!

Friends - My friends are really important to me. I really take the time to visit them, to be around them. Good friends are gold. They give me positive energy and love, and I can really be myself around them.

5. Organice Your GOOD HEART

I’m trying to be a good person. A few months ago I found a wallet on the street. Couldn’t find a telephone number inside, but a lot of his (credit) cards. Found his name on the internet and called him, and he was so grateful I called him. I didn’t noticed the wallet was filled with a lot of money (I did not search for it), but when he came back to pick up the wallet he saw all the money was there (think it was more than 1000 EUR). He wanted to give me a reward. I didn’t want it, but he insisted. He gave me 200 euro (!) and walked away. I was flabbergasted. Okay, I could have all the money if I kept the wallet, but I’m not one of those people. It wasn’t mine and I believe in karma. I know this is just a little thing, but a good heart starts with simple things. Be kind. Be helpful. Be a human.

These five steps help me to focus. Focus on what’s important.

Challenge yourself and try it. It really helps!


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Picnic!

What is a fun activity to do, when the weather is nice, that doesn't cost a lot of money? Something that is active as well, and a great time with friends?

A Picnic in the park!

Invite your best friends, and together go to a nice park/forest or field. Take a bike or walk, instead of a car, it is better for the environment and for your fitness too!

What do you need?

- a sturdy large blanket, for everyone to sit on.

-Good food( like baguettes, cheeses, fresh fruits, pasta salads, homemade hummus, veggies to grill etc)

-Water and Drinks

- Cool Box to put the drinks in.

- BBQ to grill food

- Plates/cups/napkins/cutlery for everyone. Preferably made from recycled materials, or good to reuse.

- Frisbee, (American) Football or any other fun sports to play outside( good for a workout!)

- A board game, or a book

- Some music ( not too loud!)

- Umbrella against the sun, or (hopefully not) against the rain.

I love picnics!  for instance in Central Park, or at the Hudson River in NYC. I like biking there with some good stuff in my back pack. My friends are joining me, so fun!

p.s. Make sure you leave everything clean when you leave. And especially when you are in the USA: don't show any opened or unopened alcohol bottles or cans. Put beer and wine in a brown bag. I know because I got a ticket once for a bottle of wine that was unopened (we were drinking only kombucha tea at that time) but since it rolled out of our shopping bag and was a bit visible, the park's officer thought it was appropriate to ticket everyone one of us, while our neighbor was actually drinking a beer, but in a brown bag. Oh well, those are the rules I guess, we did not see the wine fell out of the shopping bag. So good tip for you when having a picnic!

Love, Lonneke

 


Delicous foods on the menu

Sandy Relief dinner with friends!

Dinner with friends for Sandy Relief
Dinner with friends for Sandy Relief

Hello all!

Yesterday I hosted a last-minute "Sandy Relief/Power ON" celebration dinner party for my friends! We cooked together and made delicious foods. We talked about the past week being in NYC and shared each individual story of being in Sandy and the Black Out. All these stories are intriguing! The city has been a weird place to live in the past week.   A tale of 2 cities in One, New York Magazine has a perfect cover that shows that.

My friend Thomas and I went shopping for food at WholeFoods on Bowery street & Houston. To my surprise it wasn't that crowded. Most products were in stock, only there were no eggs left. (there were a few Organic egg whites by Organic Valley left though). Thomas was supposed to run his 9th marathon in NYC, but we all know what happened to the marathon (got cancelled).

With full bags of groceries to stock my back in power fridge again, we arrived home.

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preparing foods...lots of fresh ingredients.

What was on the menu?

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Lonneke cooking

A delicious vegetarian meal! Amazing organic vegetable soup . Baguettes from the oven with organic tomatoes and garlic, an organic salad with Thomas' own dressing, roasted artichokes from the oven, Pasta with a tomato based sauce and as dessert a Dutch delicacy: Poffertjes! I brought the poffertjes mix all the way from Holland when I got back to NYC!

Delicous foods on the menu
Delicous foods on the menu

I will add the recipe as a separate post. Everyone loved the soup!

All my friends donated clothes to Glam4good, a charity started by stylist Mary Alice Stephenson. A firefighter friend of hers is collecting clothing for families in disaster areas of Rockaway Beach & Breezy Point. This way I know for sure our gently used garments will get to the families in need! Look at how many bags we got from just one dinner with 8 friends!

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Lots of dishes to wash... but also lots of clothes for the ones in need!
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garbage bags full of clothes

We had a wonderful night.Thank you my friends for donating so much! Thomas Acda (donated running clothes) Munemi Imai (donated scarves, gloves. hats), Jackie Swerz (donated a bunch of designer clothing), George Vellonakis (donated many men's clothing) & Tina Louise (donated A LOT of clothes from her and her daughter). I am donating like 4 full bags of clothes on top of that.

if you want to donate yourself to Glam4Good see below!

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Together we can help all these people get back on their feet. Every little thing helps!

Love, Lonneke

 

 


Beach Wijk aan Zee

Nice day at the beach with a friend

A trip to the beach can be very spontaneous!

When I was in Amsterdam for work, I went to meet my friend, top model Dewi Driegen right after. We just decided to take her dogs to the beach! This beach in Wijk aan Zee is famous for kite surfing. So we saw many of these kite surfers on the beach. (you can see the many kites in the air if you look closely). The dogs enjoyed it a lot as well!

Me with Betty & Jerry

 

Me and Jerry

I don't have a picture of me and Dewi unfortunately, we were just there having a good time

I am always very pleased when I go to new places and restaurants that implement organic in a very natural way. Just like beach club Aloha. The food was delicious and all organic and many healthy options. And a great mindset also:

Pumpkin soup at Aloha

(Ok, I did have a slice of the delicious Apple pie. but sssst, don't tell anyone!)

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They have great home baked pizzas too here. Dewi couldn't finish hers so we took it to go :). There are 3 beach clubs at this beach and all nice to sit and enjoy the view.

I love doing spontaneous things. When your life is "organiced", you have the time to do spontaneous things! We had a great day!

Love, Lonneke

Beach Club Aloha

Reyndersweg 2

1951 LA Velsen-Noord

+31251374130

ps there is a live webcam 24/7! Check it here.


Off day? Instant pick me ups!

We all have days that just feel off, even the most positive person on earth. Maybe you got some bad news, maybe it's raining, maybe you feel overwhelmed by your schedule, or maybe you just woke up in a bad mood for no particular reason. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, try these things first:

SMILE
Especially when you don't feel like it. Even if you don't 'smize', simply smiling with your lips triggers your brain to release endorphins. Smiling makes you more attractive, major plus! It is also 'contagious', the easiest way to make the world a better place in a small way ;) What else? It literally improves your health by lowering your blood pressure and boosting the immune system.

Still need some help? Here are my go to pick me ups
Instant pick me ups
Sayings & Quotes

BREATHE (properly, that is)
Take a deep breath and exhale all the way. Relax all your (probably tensed up) ab muscles, I guarantee you that will already feel better! I truly believe that this is why people feel like they need a cigarette when they're frustrated, they need to breathe all the way... In fact, I think I will write a more detailed post on breathing soon, it is something most people could do better (I know this sounds weird, but it's true).

EXERCISE
Run for 30 min, put your 'aggression' into lifting some weights. You have all this extra (negative) energy, why not turn that into something positive. I guarantee you: you will feel better.


ZOOM OUT
List all the things that you are thankful for and that you have going for you in life. Trust that things will get better, because deep down you know they will eventually.

FRIENDS
Your friends will always make you feel better, that's why they're your friends! Go out for a drink, go shoe shopping, share funny stories, laugh, hug, just hang out, even if your busy schedule only allows you 20 min of downtime. It will put you in an exceedingly better mood and you'll be more productive as a result.

And if aaalll this doesn't work, give yourself the day off and watch your favorite comedy movie. 'Dumb and dumber' always does the trick for me!

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Inspiration Mid-Week

I came across this quote today on my best friends blog: ...like a Rolling Stone ( which you have to check out as she is one of the most inspirational people I know! who also happens to have the greatest.cards.ever called DaniPress which you can purchase anytime.anywhere.)

She posted this today &  this was something I needed to hear right now and wanted to share with all of you:

" One of the best pieces of advice I ever got, back when I was 23 and newly out of school, is this: look around and figure out who you want to be on your team. Figure out the people around you that you want to work with for the rest of your life. Figure out the people who are smart & awesome, who share your values, who get things done — and maybe most important, who you like to be with and who you want to help win. And treat them right, always. Look for ways to help, to work together, to learn.

Because in 20 years you’ll all be in amazing places doing amazing things.”  John Lilly.

I think this is important to me as I've lived away from my family for so long, and at the end of the day the friends I make and the people I meet become my family. I would do anything for them, and love them like my own. We should take a look around, and make sure we are always surrounded be positivity, light and love.

I encourage you to truly take value in your loved ones and the people around you. You might live thousands of miles away from your parents, siblings, friends and you will always have them a phone call away. BUT the people that are beside you right here and now. Treasure them, take care of each other and spread the love, always.

ps- DaniPress also gives 10% to a organization called These Numbers Have Faces :

"These Numbers Have Faces invests in the future leaders of South Africa by empowering young people to reduce poverty in their own communities.

Through college scholarships and a dynamic Community Impact Model based on service, mentoring, and financial literacy, young people are developing the skills to transform South Africa. In our efforts for higher education and youth empowerment, These Numbers Have Faces aims to put real people in the place of numbers."


The road of Life.

I haven't posted anything for a long time, because I was super busy making everything behind-the-scenes of Organice Your Life® work. I hired Lisa to work full-time on the site and magazine, and I am very happy so far!

In the meantime, I have done photoshoots, with lots of pictures coming out soon, I survived 2 earthquakes and 1 Hurricane in 2 weeks.(That is the earthquake in NYC and Hurricane Irene, and one earthquake in the Netherlands when I just returned there!). I also discovered I might be allergic to gluten, as I feel tired after eating bread.... I also turned 30 which really makes me feel mature, happy and full of energy for the rest of my life. My best friend got married. A lot of friends are having babies.. Lot's of things on my mind, lots of things to think about...My boyfriend and I have a long distance relationship, and I travel all over the world. My sister lives in another country as her boyfriend plays soccer there (or football as we say) A lot of things happening around me, all at once.

Even I, who set up Organice Your Life®, feel that I have to "organice" my life still. It is not perfect ever, the road of life is a continuous path of ups and downs, thoughts and experiences and never knowing which way it will go. Going with the flow, while making wise moves.There is no right, there is no wrong. Just love and respect your own feelings and others. I try to prepare for the near future, while trying to decide what the way is that makes me happy at the moment, as I never know what the future will bring.

But what if certain experiences, can make you feel totally out of control within yourself? Like you are losing control of the situation? While you always thought everything is in control? After experiencing the feeling of an near empty NYC in preparation for hurricane Irene, that looked more like Doomsday, and the earthquake that literally shook everything in my apartment, I thought: what if disaster really struck seriously? What is it I am doing in my life? What do I want to really do in my life? What is in the future for me? What should I do? Who should I spend time with? Kids or not? Marriage? NYC or the Netherlands? or maybe Scotland? Even Paris? I think you need moments to take your own time, to meditate, to feel, to get in contact with your true heart, feelings and thoughts. Process it all, find out why things are happening, and assess. You need time to just think and make a few decisions that maybe make YOUR LIFE  (in this case MY life) better and gives you the room to breath, and think happy thoughts and just love it all.

I decided I am going to visit my sister soon as I miss her. I decided I am eating less bread unless it is made of spelt as it probably will make me feel less tired. I decided to really take time to find out what I need in love, friends, family space, place to live and in my work. I need to really pick up my fitness again. But mostly: In a month it has been exactly 10 years ago that my father passed away. The person who supported me throughout the first part of my career and was besides that, an awesome dad. I never really got through it, I just went on with my life.I started to recently process the pain and loss for the first time. All these feelings together worn me out a bit emotionally and I just need time to think, relax and feel. Take a step back to jump forward. This all is just my road of Life, and I try to live and enjoy it fully!

Love, Lonneke

picture: "Gili Trawangan beach by sunset" by Alexia van der Meijden