We are ALL in love with stuff — with shopping, with acquiring, with owning, with collecting! I know it is easy to do this. But let’s lust after life instead?

How we live our lives these days

Our obsession with stuff has become unhealthy. When we have a void in our lives, we buy things (we have all done it!) When we have problems, we buy things. And these things are becoming more and more expensive, bigger, shinier … more wasteful ( and NOT Green!)

This obsession with stuff leads to owning a lot, having a lot of clutter … and yet this stuff doesn’t fill our lives with meaning.

We buy things when we’re depressed, we buy things for others to show how much we love them … and in this way, stuff has separated us from actually dealing with our emotions, blocked us from truly connecting with others.

Let’s replace that lust for stuff with a lust for life and here are some ideas and inspirations that help me, but is something I have to remind myself of often… especially when walking past my favorite store! We are all a work in progress, so we need to be gentle with ourselves, but we also have to make good choices, that will help us grow in every way.

Make good choices that will help us grow in every way

  • Rediscover a passion for life. Get outside and feel nature, appreciate the beauty of the world around you. Get active, do some gardening or yardwork, play a sport, go for a walk, take a hike, go for a swim, ride a bike. Feel the life coursing through you. Breathe it in.
  • Give experiences as gifts, not stuff. Instead of shopping for someone come birthdays or Christmas, think of an experience you can give them instead. A date with you, doing something fun, hanging out, cooking, playing, talking, exploring. A fun time at a park or beach. Something other than everyday. An experience is much more meaningful than an object.
  • Connect with others. In real life. If you haven’t hung out with a friend recently, give him a call and go hang out. Go on a date with your partner. Visit your mom or grandparents. And be present while you’re with them — really listen, really be there. Love people, not stuff!
  • Deal with your emotions. If you have a need to buy things, to shop when you are having emotional issues, be more aware of this. Then deal with the underlying emotions, rather than using shopping as a way to forget about them. If you’re depressed, or anxious, or lonely, deal with those. Find solutions, figure out what’s causing them. Good news: experiencing life, getting active, and connecting with others all help you deal with those emotional issues.
  • Disconnect your attachment to stuff.
  • Realize that life, not stuff, is what matters. Objects are just objects — if you lose them, if they get stolen or destroyed … it’s not a big deal. They’re just objects, NOT your life. Your life is the series of moments that is steaming through your consciousness right now, and how you use those moments and what you fill them with is what truly matters, not what you fill your home with. At the end of this short journey, you’ll look back and remember your experiences, the people you loved and who loved you back, the things you did and didn’t do. Not the stuff you had.

So let’s all love life & NOT STUFF!

I hope this inspires you to re-think wants VS needs. We all *want* stuff, but do you need it? Internalize this, and hopefully you make the right choice for YOU.

Love xoxo

First published in 2011, Updated in 2018